Beautify Your Love in Relationship

We can use the EFT to overcome the various obstacles facing us with love, acceptance and unity with loved ones and other important people in our lives.

We could talk here about their love partners, children, parents, siblings, friends or colleagues.

Before explaining this process, I would say that it is very likely need to engage in the same procedure to love and accept ourselves if we succeed in loving the others this way. This is true because our biggest obstacle to ourselves is to love our self-doubt, which allows behaviors and expressions of others to turn our fears about our self-esteem.

Then we lose our love for them.

Thus, we might want to first work on using EFT to remove barriers towards more self-esteem. See the previous chapter on the subject.

Other chapters to work on relations with EFT are as follows:

EFT and aftoektimisisEFT and False Prototypes ScheseisEFT and Communications < ; p> Discovering What to work on

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Our first step is to realize when and in relation to which behaviors or personality traits, we lose our feelings of love, acceptance and unity with others.

a. Select the first person you’d like to be able to appreciate more consistently and unconditionally.

b. Now make a list of his / her behavior, which annoy you or make you yourselves distance becomes defensive or close to your heart.

Possible

following is a brief list of some common reasons we could lose our feelings of love and unity with someone. In such cases we might feel hurt, bitterness, resentment, frustration, fear, jealousy, injustice, anger, anger, competitiveness, competitive, so we could shut ourselves or become defensive, offensive or aggressive . ) 1. When others do not agree with mas.
2. When we do not katalavainoun.
3. When you stop us from meeting our needs. (The needs could be psychological, such as the need for acceptance, respect and esteem) 4. When we do not afora.
5. When they think they are anoteroi.
6. When they try to control or suppress mas.
7. When we epikrinoun.
8. When you tell lies or gossip about emas.
9. When we are hurt or someone close to emas.
10. When they have bad intentions or ulterior kinitra.11. When it is negative, complaining, whining, criticizing klp.12
If they think they know the panta.13. When we give advice we have zitisei.14. When playing the role of victim, the “poor me” and want prosochi.15. When you do not care for themselves or to transfer its share fortio.16. When they lathi.17. When not keep their promises or appointment tous.18. When it is weak and exartimeni.19. When acting in an egotistical and selfish way, ignoring our needs and others’ 20. When you use us or allous.21. When it is cold and anaisthitos.22. When not ypefthynoi.23. When tempelis.24. When they ignore the needs mas.25. When we aporriptoun.

Alla reasons____________________________

Note: Other Love does not mean that we must allow them to do that want, regardless of whether it is unfair or unethical.

We feel unconditional love for them, but we also deal assertively about such behavior. This is actually good for them as evolving souls. This is also important for us and our society as a whole tis.

Afto must be stable, but with the same love and understanding as possible,

Having made a list of other behaviors that cause you to close until now has chosen one want to first work on.

uses EFT in this barrier

The barrier for love can be felt as a negative emotion or viewed as a limiting belief. In the latter case, if possible, it is best to focus on the emotion generated by this belief creates.

start with the measurement of SUD in this issue, run the up and move.

As employ EFT, our emotions, aspects or even experience with this work could be changed. In that case, may work for what it is, always remember, however, to return to our original question to check it out and bring it down if necessary.

work in Main Emotion and belief / p> <

I. Feelings that we have when the other behaves in a certain way.

A.

We rub the sore spot on one side (or tap the side of the hand) , repeating words “A” three times.

B.

Then repeating phrase “B” three times while rubbing on the sore spot on the other side (or is touched by hand side of the other).

C.

Then repeat the “C” words recalled, while pressing the 12 points.

A. 1. Even if you feel (feeling) when _______ / because _____ (name of person) _____________ (the behavior that bothers us) I ___________, I deeply and profoundly agapi. IA 2.. Even though until now I feel (emotion) _______ when / why _____ (name of person) _____________ (the behavior that bothers us) ___________, I now understand / inner doubts and fears (problems, air conditioning), which cause him / her to behave this way. B.

choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, understand that my benefit) to be free from this (emotion) ______.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) ____ when / because _____( name of person or act)

These feelings will probably change and will need to work with any emotion surfaces. Note that usually feel anger and hatred, as we first feared, evil, pain, guilt, shame, self-rejection or injustice.

So I will probably have to deal with them to get free from our anger.

working on other aspects

While working to open up to love we can work with various aspects such as: II. Feelings that we have the fact that we are negative synaisthimatapros others and not as loving as we would like it to be.

A. 1. Even though I am ______ (guilt, shame, self-rejection, self-doubt) because they have not yet been able to love even when _____________ / ()___________, though my behavior and deep love myself deeply.

A. 2. Even though so far I feel ___ (guilt, shame, self-rejection, self-doubt), why have not yet managed to love _____________ even when / if ()___________, behavior and understand myself now, emotions and my reactions. < ; / P>

B choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, understand that my benefit) to be free from this (emotion) ______.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) ______ because I do not like _____ unconditionally

In other words, we want to love, even though we are not as loving as we would like to be. Experience My understanding is that the acceptance of ourselves “as we” is a prerequisite for progress and better ourselves.

III. Resistance to open in love

? Consider the following potential obstacles in the way is open and love:

1. We feel vulnerable and afraid of being hurt if we are open and loving and prefer to keep an emotional apostasi.2 . We do not want to give another idea that he or she can do what he or she wants emas.3. We would first ask for forgiveness or at least be aware of the mistakes tous.4. We are afraid we will lose control allowing them to be too comfortable with tous.5. We want to place the blame for our dissatisfaction with ourselves or our lives to someone who is “responsible” .6. We believe that falsely implies that we love let this man do what he wants – regardless of moral or legal – and that would be totally aparadekto.7. We have identified the role of the victim should feel bad and katachrisi.8. We are in the role of investigating the need to find errors allon.9. We are afraid of intimacy because we fear: a. egkataleiftheiv. Do katapiezontaig. Do pligothei10. We fear love because we fear that there will be no adequate response from others and feel rejected .11. We can not believe that others might say agapoun.12. We have been seriously injured by this person can not overcome this pikria.Alla> ___________________________ If we can not find specific resistance to opening our hearts, might benefit from examination of our childhood for similar experiences or behaviors that hurt us then.

If this section does not find that our resistance, we can then work broadly to “this resistance” or “this apparent resistance”.

a variant of the following statements are right. < ; / P>

an A.

Although I feel (emotion of resistance) ____________ on the idea of love (name of person) ______ when / because it (the conduct of) ______ I deeply and love me deeply.

2 A
If and so far I feel (emotion of resistance) ____________ on the idea of love (name of person) ______ when / because it (the conduct of) ______, now realize that benefit me to leave this.

3 A. Even though until now I feel (emotion of resistance) ____________ on the idea of love (name of person) ______ when / because (behavior of) ______, I now understand his / her fears and resulting behaviors.

4 A
If and so far I feel (emotion of resistance) ____________ on the idea love (person’s name) ______ when / because it (the conduct of) ______, Now I understand that I love and continue to rise beyond me.

5 A.

Although that until now I had the feeling (emotion of resistance) ____________ on the idea of love (name of person) ______ when / because it (the conduct of) ______, I now realize that loving others means that this way even when he / she is wrong.

6 A. Even though until now I feel (emotion of resistance) ____________ on the idea of love (person’s name) ______ when / because it (the behavior of) ______, I now want to go beyond that and with my life, without these feelings.

B choose (want, deserve, allow myself to accept I understand that my benefit) to be free from this (emotion) ______.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The feeling of resistance) to love (person) _______even when / while ( behavior). IV. Feelings we had in the past when emeisproti experience the event with the same person or others.

A. 1. Even though I felt / feeling (feeling) ____________ because it (the name of person) _____ I did deep, deep love and myself.

A. 2. Even though until now I was feeling (feeling) is the ____________ (name of person) _____ I did, now prefers to live here and be free from it.

B choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, understand that my benefit) is free from this (emotion) ______.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) ______ about ____ (name of another person and what he did)

V . Physical problems associated with the emotions involved.

A. 1. Even if you have it (natural phenomenon) ____________ _____ in my (body part) I ___________, I deeply and profoundly love .

A. 2. Even though until now I had this (physical phenomenon) in ____________ (my side of the body) ___________, I am now becoming entirely free from it. B.

choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, understand that my benefit) to free it (natural phenomenon) in ______ (my side of the body )_____.

C. Reminder Phrase = (physical phenomenon) _______ _____ in my (body part)

VI. Childhood experiences similar to that which makes us more sensitive

A. 1. Even though I feel (emotion) ____________ on what (name of person) _____ ________( did in childhood), I deeply and love me deeply. < / P>

A. 2. Even though until now I was feeling (feeling) ____________ on what (name of person) _____ ________( did in childhood), I now realize that he was a victim / experiences of childhood (programming).

B choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, understand that my benefit) be free from it ( emotion) ______.

D. Reminder Phrase = (feeling) about (the name of another person and what he did)

In working to open up love, consider reading the following chapters: EFT and aftoektimisiEFT and False Prototypes ScheseisEFT and obstacles epikoinoniasEFT and Treatment of Inner

Love Phrases

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